[quote] Third, this is not to be used as a controlling tool. It is to protect yourself from her bad treatment of you.
Stepping away from boundaries for a moment.
Honestly, for the most part wife does not treat me bad. She is fair (I will use the term friendly here). She says she responses to things I do (ie. still holds resentment for me not being there for her in the MR.. anger for me blogging.. the blog is a story in itself.. but I did it when the bomb dropped).
I have seen on other websites and here that WW has to feel a sense of lost or has to fall hard for her to turn around. I think the abortion killed her spirit for our M that she has nowhere to fall or feeling of lost other than the $$ support she gets from me. She already said that I was never there for her to support her emotionally (and she has good examples throughout the many years.. and I have to agree with this true statement.. I SUCKED as a H).. but I am working on my personal growth.
Removing $$ support is the one thing I think she will feel the impact. Because the emotional support was never there she has nowhere to fall/loose. Question, is it too late to pull back (limit) on the $$ support?
