You can't control how she reacts. Her reactions are not your burden. Let them go. Take care of you and the kids. A WW is a very self centered person. I know my WW is only looking out for herself.
Me 40 WW 41 D 4 S 12 S 14 BD 6.16.2015 W stopped wearing ring 9.4.15 W Filed Divorce 9.14.15 My ring off 11.15.15 D finalized 12.18.15 WXW (wayward X wife) moved out 1.28.16 got her own place