What can I do? How do I communicate this boundary? Moving her things out of MBR made her upset but it offered me the space away from her (just for those few weeks) that I found beneficial for my wellbeing (she is not with me in MR).
Could I say, "I am respecting your privacy by not entering the bedroom where you sleep please remove your things from MBR." What can I do if she does not honor this boundary?
Cadet sent a link on boundaries. Did you read it?
First, you don't ask for a boundary, you state it. A boundary is not a give & take thing (I did that for you, now you do this for me).
Secondly, don't set a boundary that you are not absolutely sure you can enforce if it's broken. Know what you will do if it is not honored. Expect her to challenge you.
Third, this is not to be used as a controlling tool. It is to protect yourself from her bad treatment of you.
Please read the link on boundaries.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
