I understand what you are saying about the MBR. What I am asking you is how are you using this as a boundary? So far, it has just become another battleground for you and WW. Nothing has been accomplished over whose things stay in which room. While other, much more serious issues are seemly ignored by you.
I mentioned the terrible behavior at the dinner table. Here is another issue that you have not mentioned confronting your WW about:
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I tell her I will be home at 5pm. I get home to find she and kids are not home. I find my S10 down at the neighborhood park and he tells me W and S8 are at the mall.
Where I live, a parent could lose their kids for doing something like she's done. Is she insane? Leaving a ten year old kid alone in the park? I really hope this is different from how it reads.
Anyway, back to boundaries. Can you focus on something else, besides the MBR, for a minute? B/c I do not see how you have used it as a boundary. If there is no action on your part, and if you have not stated the boundary to her......and if you don't enforce any consequences, tell me how it's a boundary? It just looks like a power struggle.
For the time being, and since you have not told her it is a boundary, can you think of something else?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
