Doh.. that is one of my faults.. I do not tell the story well; making it difficult for people to follow.
Yesterday, W calls me towards the end of the workday and asks what time will I be home (she is UPSET). She makes a comment that I did something but will not share. I tell her I will be home at 5pm. I get home to find she and kids are not home. I find my S10 down at the neighborhood park and he tells me W and S8 are at the mall. They get home and we all have dinner together (normal routine).
After dinner, I put kids to bed (read story with S8 too). We hear shower going while in their bedroom but shortly after S8 says "hear that, the door.. and he yells, mom!" Apparently, she decided to go out without telling kids or me. S10 cannot go to sleep he is worried. W comes home 2 hours later. I did not ask where she went.
However, later that night I did press her on what has her upset. She initially gave me attitude that she did not have to tell me anything since I did not tell her. Apparently, she needed $ to pay our bills and went to another bank where I deposit $ from my paycheck (none from hers) to save for rainy day and kids’ college fund. We dip into it when she does not have $ to pay monthly bills; she has always be the owner of the M to paid bills (I did the long term $ planning). Well, I closed the account to drop her from the account (remember she took $2k in cash saying she did not have to tell me about it) so I dropped her from this account (I can’t trust she and was protecting myself and kids; she could in theory take the $). She was pissed at this because when she went to the bank they told her she is not on the new account.
This led her to rage out at me for trying to kick her out of MBR when the house was sold to us by her parents at the low end of the market value (she threw that in my face.. I could have said that we renovated the entire house since then.. but didn’t). She went on to say, “yes I left the MR and had an A but you left me first and was never therefore me so F@C! U!!”
