Quote: in my case, W has often expressed a desire for a "fresh start" - she keeps saying how she's afraid I (I) can't let go of the past, and am always going to hold it over her. Note: I have NEVER thrown it in her face, not in ALL the arguments we've ever had. On occasion I've tried to discuss it, because I feel we have to understand our past if we're to do better going forward, but I have always been willing to "start from here" and never mention it again.
Tim, I wish my H was like you. I would love to be able to wipe the slate clean and start over in this area of our R. However, whenever we start discussing the sexual side of our R, I get "you hate sex, you'll never change". I wish I could get it through his head that I don't hate sex. We have gotten into a bad pattern, I'll admit and both need to make some significant changes. I think a clean slate is exactly what we need but H doesn't seem to be willing to let go of the past, at least not right now.
