Case in point: I've been abused both verbally, psychologically and sexually. Later in life I was sexually assaulted. I experienced a years worth of verbal abuse from my STBXH.
And no point in my life have I ever considered myself a victim. Those are things that happened to me, yes, but they do not DEFINE me.
When it comes to tough situations in life, I personally believe, people have two choices. They lay in the ditch of shitty circumstances and decide to stay there. Because it's easy to say woe is me, this isn't fair, it's all happening to me and it's not my fault. Or they can get up, even if it takes an inch at a time, and go, "well that [censored], but i'm going to live my life."
You can be a victim or a victor. The work is the same either way.
Oh. And for the record? Your wife didn't FORCE you to do anything nor did she MAKE you feel anything. She certainly influenced and provided circumstances that led you to feel the way you did. but She didn't hold a gun to your head and say "Angel, you will feel worthless and you are at fault for everything and I demand that you get a second job to meet my needs."
You need to take an actual look at yourself and stop blaming your wife for the insecurities and problems that you yourself have as an individual. Giving it to the lord, or giving it to your lawyer doesn't solve anything and it doesn't fix the only thing you can fix, which is yourself.
M:32,H 32 T:10, M5 BD/H Move Out: 9/2014 - extreme anger H Mental Illness Diagnosis: 4/15 Served D Papers: 10/15 Divorced: 11/15
