I just learned this. I found it very useful so I am sharing it here.

How to express anger in a healthy way (John Bradshaw)

Here is:
1. What I see
2. What I hear
3. What I interpret
4. What I feel
5. What I want

Practice:
God, you were disgusting last night.
That made me sick, watching an old woman like you dancing with that young boy.

OR
I say you dancing with Billy last night 12 times.
I interpreted you were enjoying that and you were kind of turned on.
I felt scared and angry.
I want to know what that's about.


Me43 W39
M 12y,T 15y
S09,S07
Bomb Jun14
Sleeping separately Jan/Mar15
Share bed Mar/May15
Reconcile Jun15
Aug15 W sais D will happen
D told to kids Sept15
W moved out with kids 01 October15