I just learned this. I found it very useful so I am sharing it here.
How to express anger in a healthy way (John Bradshaw)
Here is: 1. What I see 2. What I hear 3. What I interpret 4. What I feel 5. What I want
Practice: God, you were disgusting last night. That made me sick, watching an old woman like you dancing with that young boy.
OR I say you dancing with Billy last night 12 times. I interpreted you were enjoying that and you were kind of turned on. I felt scared and angry. I want to know what that's about.
Me43 W39 M 12y,T 15y S09,S07 Bomb Jun14 Sleeping separately Jan/Mar15 Share bed Mar/May15 Reconcile Jun15 Aug15 W sais D will happen D told to kids Sept15 W moved out with kids 01 October15