in house seperation (3)

[vise82]

Hey,

last night I picked up my kids from school, played outside the house with them, W came home. She was outside with us. I was talking about the kids school with her then mid conversation the neighbor comes out to his car to go work out, W says Hi to him doesn't even excuse herself, and goes to talk to him before he could leave. Its like I want even there.

I ask about dinner, she start into me how I should have had something cooking already when the kids got home, she is in a bad mood.

She gives me a list of bill that I need to pay my half of(56%). I check it over and find that a $400 bill has yet to be paid from last check I gave her, she also took out $400 at a ATM. So I ask about it and she answers some thing like the check shows in the account but the money is not there till the check clears.

So I say I am not writing another check till the bill are paid from the last list.

All I get was spew spew angry, this is how she has done it for 10 years then I go and take my money away from the family. I mention that I only did it because of the CC that was maxed out this summer. She still thinks that she can not pay a bill if there is something else she would rather spend the money on.

So it looks like she took her money out and will give me a list for bills to pay my share and she will do the same.

I said I am protecting myself, I want more transparency and I don't want cc used to pay bills. She says with me asking all these questions that I am accusing her of stealing and that I don't trust her. I validate her, I am not accusing her of stealing but I wont know where money is going if I don't ask.

She wants me to start asking in a different way because it sounds like I am accusing her of it.

I agreed to that and said I am still going to have to ask about bill that is not going to stop.

She wants us to be able to talk like normal people and wants to discuss the separation agreement. I still said that if she wants separation she can do the work. Tell me what you want then I will look it over.

She doesn't want to do that.

Then we got into the night she left, she said she wouldn't change anything and that she didn't threaten me about calling the police she was just stating a fact that if she did call the police they would side with her.

There was more said then I left for work.

Then she texts me saying sorry your late for work I honestly didn't know what time it was.