So conflicted. Seperated from my wife.

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ok,
So i know and we all do for that matter what you are going through right now. I know the constant mind scrambling looking for the answer etc.. I know you have checked your thread a thousand times waiting for a response or some new light that will get you back to where you want to be.


Sorry

That will not happen. You need to open your ears and eyes to what you have read in the first few responses. this did not happen overnight and will not be fixed that way either. This took me a long time to realize.

Get the book and read it cover to cover. Divorce Remedy. I thought a hundred times there was a camera somewhere ready to pop out as my life is written in this book. Mind blowing.

Your W and marriage, you need to leave them alone right now. Right now!

read the book, address any short comings you may find in yourself. really sit back and look at what maybe your wife said to you about yourself and determine if they are valid. Look at yourself and decide if you are the person you wanted to be. Fix what you can, not because you think she will come running back, but because you owe it to yourself and your kids.

Move forward with your life. Not move on. I just learned the difference here and it made a light bulb go off in my head. I am moving forward in life, i will do all things i should and need to do. I am not out looking for another relationship or woman. someday i might do that and Move On but right now i am moving forward. Who knows maybe someday i will move forward or move on with my W.

Stop spinning about what she is doing. you can not control what she does, what she feels, what she says, or doesnt do in any of those areas as well. Know who you can control? you guessed it.


There are some really smart and insightful people here. Way more than me. I do not think i realized this until i finally starting really detatching and lett ing W go. This is not something i actually did either, it just started happeneing. read up on it but do not stress if you feel you are struggling with it because i believe you are supposed to.

anyway, get the book read and read then come back with questions.

best of luck