I could understand how confusing this must sound. You never said what happened, only that you were unfaithful. Since there has been unfaithfulness from both partners in the M, then you may have a harder thinner line that some H's have. And, btw, you may need to remind some of us (especially me) that both of you have cheated......and that she's been in more than one affair.
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I do feel I am not being the man only a fool would leave by being out to the wee hours of the morning on work nights, agree?
I agree, however, I am slow to agree, due to how I've seen LBH'S bounce from what you've been doing into trying to be some kind of super husband. And of course, he over-kills and gets the total opposite results from what he was wanting. You have to find balance.
I would agree that staying out gambling all night is not the brightest idea I've heard. Correct me if I'm wrong, but that was your answer to her sleeping in the MBR, b/c you didn't know what else to do without it appearing she backed you down into the basement.
Gal doesn't mean you are to go wild. Just b/c you aren't checking in with her and giving an account of your whereabouts, etc., doesn't mean you shouldn't behave like a responsible adult. You can go out without giving her an itinerary of the evening, but does that mean you should see what a bad boy you can be? Should you go bar hopping, get into fist-fights, pick-up women, or whatever? Not saying you did any of that, but you don't have to, in order to have a good time. Always remember, you are somebody's son, somebody's H, and somebody's daddy.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
