It's just one of those time that I say: "Really? It's not happening!!!" What is wrong with this lady.
As much as she trust you and developed a good friendship, how can she just start thinking that SS will spend some time with you during the holidays?
TBH, this kid is better off without any parent at all. His dad is a jerk that is more worry about himself then with his kid, his mom wants to dump him somewhere for the holidays because her agenda is more important. What is wrong with these people?
You are totally right thinking the way you are thinking. Staying in touch with a XH child is one thing, being responsible for him during holidays and involving him into your life is another.
If this was a kid that the mom passed away and he was left only with his crazy dad, then would be encouraging to just adopt the idea of having him as your own kid. But he has a mother, and she is not giving him up, she is just taking him out of her way when it is convenient.
And that's why there are so many broken Rs, people are being raised by Psychopaths. Later in life that is the big white elephant in their lives.
I know you care dearly for SS, and it is sure another wound in your heart, but to get further involved into this mess is just a non brainer. Although it's hard to come to a decision on the holidays issues, it is also avoiding some responsibility that is not yours and any trouble that may arise from it.
You are wise Sotto, and if you felt HXW is pushing some agenda, then go with your instincts, do what is right by you and for you.
