Sotto sotto voce

[Sotto]

Thanks guys for the votes of support - it's really appreciated. Still on the SS theme, I have a bit of a dilemma which I'm thinking about. There's a bit of history to this one in that when H & I were together, HXW often seemed to panic over holiday periods (Xmas in particular) and want to spend v. limited time with SS.

This Xmas, she told me that H will be with SS for a few days and the rest of the time with her. She said he's old enough to take the train himself now and can come and see me alone. I don't have a problem with that. TBH, I'd panic a little about what to do with him, but I'd come up with a plan. Thing is, she was pressing further than this and saying he could come for overnight stays with me & it would be good for he & I to have minibreaks together.

TBH, whilst it's great to keep in touch with him (them) that's more than I would want to do. I'm happy to visit, go out for lunch, to a movie - but I don't really want a minibreak (does that sound awful?) And I feel she hopes I will take some of the 'burden' of care during holiday periods. Although this may be mindreading.

Anyway, I made generally positive noises about it would be great to hook up with him over Xmas - but I guess I want to put some parameters on that. I don't want to be unreasonable, because I do want to still be in touch. But I have started to feel that her being so keen for us to be in touch has a bit of an agenda now....any comments welcome. Am I being a bit oversensitive here??