Cali Thanks it helps to know the pre story. I did my share of scrambling to fix and make her happy. Nothing worked. Just her getting things with no reciprocation. She has decided I am the reason she is not happy. You know all the usual, rewrote history etc, I took what she told me she wasn't happy about very seriously and addressed. Hasn't really mattered.
You have nailed it though. I am still there too much when she needs me. I am still a fixer. I have done a lot better recently. But I found myself today rushing to help her by getting the kids after I told her I may not be able to do it.
I have to be honest. I did not think I would be here long. Lol. I have a feeling I am in for a long haul. One thing I am struggling with right now is involving the kids. I have d7 and s4. They are the best but I do find my self short tempered at times when they are both not wanting to listen and just be kids. I don't like letting them see me get that way especially when they have to go through this time. D7 is very intelligent but gets her emotions so wound up at times that you can't get through the to her. Lol. No clue where she gets that! This is why her and w butt heads so often. They are exactly alike. I am doing everything I can with them and constantly talking about things that I think they can handle.
Vise I constantly keep up with you. I for some reason relate to you and a few others here. I think sometimes we think the same things regarding what some of the vets around here say. I know everyone has the best intentions but sometimes it seems off base. Maybe it is just me. Anyway. I will continue with the sharing each day and hope to get some insight as to where I can make changes for me.
Cali One more thing. I will revisit the religion topic maybe tomorrow as I have also begun a new with this.
Thanks all
M 37 W 34
T 12 M 8 D 7 S 4
Need break 4/12/15 W no ring 7/7/15
Separate room 4/12/15 Separate living suggested 8/15 W moved out 11/1/15
