Sounds like a plan. The idea of a goal is so its achieve able. Maybe not today or tomorrow but something to aim for that will be possible
R goals are difficult because you are relying on someone else to act a certain way for the goal to be made. Again no expert but perhaps relax from R goals other than ones possible to achieve by yourself , for yourself
Roller coaster it is and we can't get off without the ride coming to a stop
Thank you for stopping by. Responses to that might be: How do you know if something doesn't work unless you've tried it? Is there only one way to achieve an end that works? What does work, given your sitch is unique to those in it?
I am simply going through some self doubt brought on by perceived pressure from the W's L to get the D done in double quick time.
Getting back to being patient, where I was before and was working is what I am doing, because it works.
Avanti
- Nobody has ever learnt anything important from happiness and success; problems make us grow - Consult your plan, not your feelings - If you haven't set goals, how can you expect to achieve anything?
...R goals are difficult because you are relying on someone else to act a certain way for the goal to be made...
A goal can be about committing to doing the things that are necessary to maximise the chances of something happening, can't it?
- Nobody has ever learnt anything important from happiness and success; problems make us grow - Consult your plan, not your feelings - If you haven't set goals, how can you expect to achieve anything?
Goals for me are about shooting for the stars and if you only get to the moon, you've done very well anyway.
- Nobody has ever learnt anything important from happiness and success; problems make us grow - Consult your plan, not your feelings - If you haven't set goals, how can you expect to achieve anything?
^^^^^^^^^^^. Yes and no. Yes , doing the work to be the person you really want to be and in turn this may help with R. And no , because the goal needs to be for you first and foremost If the goal is re R then you can achieve that goal but it may not affect W in the way it was intended to and then the goal isn't achieved ( if you see what I mean !!!! )
Continue on the DB path as blinkers are needed to keep the road forward the only thing in sight without influence from pesky thoughts
Don't be limited by your current beliefs but don't set yourself up,for a fall.
- Nobody has ever learnt anything important from happiness and success; problems make us grow - Consult your plan, not your feelings - If you haven't set goals, how can you expect to achieve anything?
I think the goals should be about you. You should be trying to become the authentic supreme Avanti among all the possible manifestations of Avanti. The goals should help you achieve balance and peace with your interactions with the universe.
Your wife's lawyer is on a leash. If he/she is pushing to get the D done in double quick time, he/she is following orders. Your wife is the puppet master.
I'll second that. My friend has been pushing hard her L to get her divorce done. She is now divorced and all of our conversations are based on either about what her H does/ did or why I'm not filing for D.
She has a lot of anger in her and I'm wondering if she still does love him but because society expects us to behave a certain way when we have been betrayed, that's why she divorced him so quick (20 months after he walked out on his family)!
20 months would be nice Rouky, the drive is toward it being done in 9-12 for us.
Your friend does sound very angry and to still have that after so long is sad. Did she have any input from a forum or an MC, or IC?
- Nobody has ever learnt anything important from happiness and success; problems make us grow - Consult your plan, not your feelings - If you haven't set goals, how can you expect to achieve anything?
