Then there is the other side of me, the nice guy. We have been doing parent volunteer work for past 3 weeks together alone; approx 1 hour each night. Long story short, she volunteered and I just help with the man power.
The other night when we made those uncalled-for-remarks during dinner (see above) I did not go with her to help. I know she was upset that I went to take a shower instead of helping.
Last night, she said, you gave up helping? I replied, when I came out of the shower you left (in my mind I was thinking why do I have to help you.. you volunteered not me.. but then I have to remember it’s for S10 school fundraising.. she is NOT getting anything in return from this work other than the parent satisfaction of helping S10 class fundraising.. at least I get some parent satisfaction knowing I helped).
So I ended up going with her and introducing my boundary (see above). Next is to continue with boundaries.. she fired me as her husband so I no longer have to support her.. right?
