Thank you beckyb, I really appreciate you dropping by - I am struggling with what a good DB way really means - not your words, the meaning of good DB practise. The ethos in the DR book is to forget what you know, work out what you want to achieve then be solution orientated in achieving it. I think the dream of what it is meant to be is the reason for DB'ing. It's the new M that would happen with all the new knowledge that is what I am looking for. Yes, I can do it with someone else but I can get there quicker with the person I've known for the last 27 years.
Ancaire, thank you for stopping by and for giving me your perspective - was I happy? I think I was. It wasn't without issue but it felt good overall. Was there too much resentment? Yes there was, but there wasn't the time to deal with it, our lives were sooo busy that time for one another was not a priority. When there was a lull in activity, we were soo tired, we just took the chance to sleep. We had recognised this and moved to give ourselves some space and time to think, the benefits of our decision were just starting to come through and bam a friend request on Facebook destabilizes everything.
rd500, thank you buddy, I really do appreciate your input - doing nothing and trusting things to fate, resonates but as we are not in any real form of communication, the gulf between us just gets wider and so ultimately it's the roll of the dice that determines the fate of our M. This is not DB'ing, is it? Where's the solution oriented thinking in that?
- Nobody has ever learnt anything important from happiness and success; problems make us grow - Consult your plan, not your feelings - If you haven't set goals, how can you expect to achieve anything?
