I too realized this, didn't know who I was, I had a hobby but was kept from it, was not what my W wanted me to do.
I also lost confidence in my decision making and eventually transfer all decisions to her. This come out in MC and just made it worse for me, she liked me even less after I shared that info.
Keep your new found information to yourself.
Me late 30's W mid 30's T 15, M 10 S4, S7 ILYBNILWY June 2015 In house S July 2015 W rings off Oct 2015 My ring off Feb 2015 Separate houses June 2016