HD WAW now LD

[DBrookie]

I totally understand those feelings. I'm having to deal with them myself right now.

I think a major problem was what I perceived as a bait-and-switch. W (then SO) was the initiator from the start of our rel. She's initiate and I was ready for action. She then stopped initiating and became very negative.

Instead of saying "I want you right now", which always did/has worked, she began saying "Why don't you want to..." or "You never want to..." and similar kinds of things. I think she thought that approach would instantly turn me on for some reason.

When we started counseling (marital and individual) she always rejected any reason I gave for my LD problems. In fact, she said she really didn't care what the reason was.

I understand that my seemingly new found HD appears to be phony. But the reality is that we both played a role in our sexual problems. I know I played my part...and she is just now starting to acknowledge her part.