She Left, not as unsure (2)

[dwh15]

HH, I love the 12 Lessons Learned In 12 Years Of Marriage. It's golden advice and something all of us should take to heart in future relationships.

My marriage is over

She is my ex, she is not the girl I knew.

She is her own person whom I have no control over

She is dating another man

I still love her

I am physically sick still from anxiety over all of this

I have taken steps to control the physical sickness

I am in an ok place mentally but have also contacted a therapist for this

My daughter is showing signs of depression/anxiety, I have also contacted a therapist for her and I.

I am controlling my emotions about everything surprisingly well since last week.

Finding out about om, actually may have been the catalyst for me to start really detaching.

Great insights, and also pretty typical of a WW situation. Sounds like you're handling it well. Nice job - keep it up.

Om is apparently good with kids, works as a speech therapist for handicapped children, a really nice guy, is more outgoing than my wife and likes beer a lot. Thanks for telling me oh he also likes to talk to and try and date married women good stuff

LOL at that last sentence. Isn't it crazy how nice they seem on the surface? My W's OM is also a "nice" guy. I met him a couple of times and in normal circumstances, it's probably someone I would like and get along with. Only that one little negative personality trait he has of being a home wrecker and going after a married woman with young children.

I deserve the love and attention that I can bring to a relationship returned to me.

Yes, you do. We all do.

I came at her too strong with the emotion while moving stuff together, scared her a bit, because I think she almost wanted to come back for a second. She seemed to be second guessing things, but I may be off on this. Can't read her mind! No expectations helped after she went back into her rolly poley ball and distanced again.

You're on the right track. Back it off, don't pursuit. Try to focus on yourself. The mind of a WW is going a million miles/second. She will be all over the place emotionally. Distance from that and look for the big signs.