Asked for the D - Filed myself..

[dwh15]

So sorry for you. I'm sure if feels like a fresh wound again. You seem to know your own boundaries and I respect you for honoring them. Unfortunately, in the case of long-term affairs, or as in my case, multiple long-term with different OM, I think the odds of R are pretty slim. You're dealing with a person who knowingly not only betrayed you, but actively hid a dual life for months from the person whom they supposedly love more than anyone.

My belief is that people who do that are crippled with some serious issues, whether it be low self-esteem, family of origin, etc. For a R to be possible, they would have to recognize the problems in themselves and seek therapy to overcome. But those very problems also make them the least likely candidates to take a real look at themselves and do the work to change. It is different from the momentary lapses in judgement that happen in a ONS or short term affair.

I really hope the D process goes smoothly for you and your life continues to improve. Nobody knows what the future holds, so maybe somewhere down the line you and WW will have some sort of relationship, whether it be romantically, friends, etc. The good news is that YOU will be the one who decides her level of involvement in your life. God Bless brother and stay strong.