Thanks all for the sound advice. I'm continuing to work on my attitudes about things, and working with little baby steps.

I agree that the sudden "change" probably appears to be phony or whatever given years of problems. This boils down to a trust issue, and I need to continue to rebuild that trust a little bit at a time.

I really think if my W would read my copy of TSSM it might help...kinda 3rd party perspective and that she would probably see how it opened my eyes.

Very often her attitude was that it was all my problem/fault/etc but the book talks about how it literally takes two to tango. Thoughts on this?

"The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step." – Lao Tzu