I don't have much time to post, but wanted to say I'm thinking of you and your kids. We are in very similar situations. My exH was a former member of N.A. The OW is an addict on disability for psych issues.
We are nearing the 4-year-mark. His M.O. is to go M.I.A. He still sends our youngest daughter erratic text messages, but she ignores them because--though they seem sincere--they are never backed up with any action or effort to see her. He comes out of the fog occasionally with regret, but doesn't take action.
It's so painful to watch. Last time I saw him, at our final divorce hearing in August, he looked like death. Our oldest daughter asked him if he had cancer. So sad. Thinking of you. I know how hard it is when they return briefly to the land of the living.
Much Love,
Heather
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