Blugirl, I am dealing with a similar MIL dynamic. And since BD it is becoming more and more obvious that H has learned his ways from MIL. Will do anything to justify his behavior, including the A, and anything to make it all about how bullied and victimized he is. IC for H is helping but it is a VERY slow process. I have done my best to "stay out of it" since BD, completely STFU about MIL and let her and H work out their relationship but it has been hard. 8 months in and he still blames me for bullying her and him.
I will post later when I have more time. Gotta get my boys to school.
