I guess I would want him to find out why he made that specific choice? I feel like for most of out marriage, it's been games, power struggles, withdraws, silent treatments and punishments.
OK here is my .02
You don't need him to TELL you WHY he made these choices. He probably doesn't even know the REAL reasons.
You can find out because KNOWLEDGE is POWER
however it will take a lot of work on your part and it does not involve him.
1) I have read almost every book that our founder MWD has wrote. That is a good starting point.
2) All the homework I assigned, including every link inside of each post.
3) Read threads here from start to finish and POST on other peoples threads. Ask questions.
4) Learn about depression.
5) Re-read my welcome post - it has everything you need to do!
6) None of this is going to be fast - it takes TIME!
