kinda like saying..ya honey guess what, you could have been having what you wanted all along if you hadn't been being such a biatch.
I know that's not your intent but it can feel that way to her..thus creating negativity and low self esteme in her and therefore ld.
Very good point and I'm sure that's how it feels to her. I'm sure that's why she's so hurt and goes back and forth between blaming me and blaming herself.
She used to complain about not having sex more than once a month or something. We haven't had sex in a year and now it's because she says she scared, or that it will confuse things, or that she doesn't feel like it.
Yes, I've read TSSM and DR. I'm giving her space and time, and she's responding to it. But this was a huge issue...and is probably the one that determines whether we get back together.
Right now...I'm just trying to remind her that the future we have together is a lot longer than the past. If you always wanted those things, and you can have them now, what's preventing you from taking it?
To that question she says there's just too much resentment and pain. From reading DR...that's something she's going to have to let herself forgive about herself to move on.
I'm just looking for baby step ways to start reconnecting. Or is it just a matter of giving her time before doing the "Just Do It" thing again?
"The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step." – Lao Tzu
