D-Day Tomorrow

[MrBond]

Then what will serve you best is to explain what you did. ESPECIALLY since that seems to be the biggest issue that everything is stemmed from.

[Bobbyb]

Mr Bond you keep asking for specifics.
The specific is that I continued to lie to her about one thing over a period of months. I can't get into specifics anymore than that. The thing is I broke her trust. And she said she couldn't trust me anymore.
So we went to court and settled the debt. With me occurring 90% of it. Even though it was both ours and that she makes 4 times as much money. I just wanted to show thru my actions that I was willing to give.
So as for wanting to save the relationship. There really is no relationship. She wants nothing to do with me. She says she gets anxious around me anytime I bring things up. I asked her if she thought the settlement was fair? And she couldn't answer yes to that. She gets anxious anytime I try to talk about the past. Her answer is to just cut and run.

[MrBond]

Bottom line is we can't help unless you say what that thing is. It can be saved but unless we tackle that one big issue, it won't be.

Did you ever read the books?

[angel r]

I feel you bobby. My wife wants nothing to do with this relationship , she just wants out and period. How can you treat someone you once loved like that? A disposable object with no feelings and throw it to the trash , and just clean your hands. I am in the same boat. I am fighting until the end , until we sign the divorce. I am working on myself, i have accepted my flaws even though she wont accept hers. But there is so much i can do.

[Bobbyb]

angel r

I know how you feel. When there is one of you willing to walk the ends of the earth and try anything and everything.
Loving them even to the end. I even wore my wedding ring to the divorce hearing yesterday.

[Bobbyb]

The one big issue was that I lied.
And I vowed never to do it again.
Now..How do I save it?

[MrBond]

That'll a very rude way of putting it. We ask for details so we can help, and then you AGAIN give a vague answer and demand an answer from us.

I will tell you again. We can't help without details. Your marriage can be saved but you seem to be very rude about it. What did you lie about? If you do not tell us we can't tackle the problem.

[Bobbyb]

I'm not going to get into an argument
Not sure how you view that as rude.
Unless you have a different definition of rude than I do?

[Bobbyb]

So if you can't just accept the fact that my problem was that I was lying to my wife. That's all anyone needs to know. I am protecting my wife by not going into detail.
So if you have any constructive to say, fine.
If you insist on continuing to ask. Then I would rather you say nothing.
Again I will say. According to my wife. I broke her trust.
I acknowledge that things were my fault and have worked on my issues. Thank You

[MrBond]

And did you even read the books?