tl2, I am so sorry to hear about the D. But you are doing a great job with yourself and the kids.
It's lovely how your kids and family have rallied around you.
D may not be the end of the R. If at anytime, your W realises what it is that she's missing, you would have become a much better you, and would have less to work on for yourself.
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.