Again, I want to say thank you Mr Bond for taking the time to respond.
1. We have gone to marriage counseling. And he concluded that he was "picked on". and at the end of it all, the counseling sent me an emailing saying "your husband is unwilling to make the changes you need him to make".
2. I liked your suggestion of "if leave without telling me, he sleeps on the couch for a week". Oh how I wish it were that easy. There would be a retaliation/punishment on his part guaranteed. That's how the cheating happened. It was him escalating.
3. What I meant about the me not understanding, is that I feel like he still so self involved. Wouldn't it make more sense for me to say something like that?
4. I see an IC and it helps. My husband asked me to go for a walk on Saturday and he mentioned us going back to see the MC. I supposed I should have asked when he made the appointment for?
Thanks again. I am reading the links that were sent to me. So much to learn. So much to change.
