First Contact in Six Months Please Help

[Avanti]

Great news regarding his purchasing of a house not impacting you. If he can't buy the place without your income being considered then don't let them have your information, it's quite simple, why should you?

If he stops contributing, move to have him removed from the title to the property. He can't act without there being consequences, it not your place to accept whatever he chooses to do and not do anything. It'll show you are detaching and may scare him into a rethink, it may not but that's not the reason for doing it anyway.

You goals look good, maybe consider (using your numbering above):
1. By when? Consider changing it to I have found an IC who is helping me to figure out how I put myself first without feeling guilty and to understand why I feel guilty when I do put myself first. Make all of your goal statement in the present, they are happening, it fools your mind into believing stuff.
2. List those you've chosen already to start with and add more, as and when others come up
3. Can you be a bit more specific? Lifting a cup of coffee to your mouth is exercise...how about something that gets me mildly out of breath such as... Also change it to the present, I am exercising 4 times a week for at least 30 minutes.
4. By when and through what method (classes, reading a book, online course...). I practise and would highly recommend non-spiritual Mindfulness meditation (Google "mindfulness meditation Oxford university Mark Williams"). I am learning how to meditate.
5. That is very nice of you. Why not expand this a little to include your family, friends and those who are important to you. Consider it you time for "giving back to those who matter". Also a good idea to a a timeframe too. 5,10, 20 minutes... I am saying a prayer once a day for...