I guess I would want him to find out why he made that specific choice? I feel like for most of out marriage, it's been games, power struggles, withdraws, silent treatments and punishments. I've read a little about what you all refer to as dropping the rope. Which I believe I have tried in the past. But then I get accused of shutting him out.
There are so many double standards in this marriage and I am quite unhappy. He is allowed to just disappear, all day, with zero explaination or even a "hey, I'll be back at 6". I've told him these things destroy trust when I desperately need it be built back up. But it falls a deaf ears and just keeps happening.
I have rambled, but I need him to take ownership and build trust! He rarely thinks about my feelings. He just recently said that he doesn't feel "special anymore". I just don't understand. If I were the one who cheated, I would feel fearful of losing my husband, I would be trying to listen and make him feel like fixing these mistakes is all I want. I would say I was a fool and I want this marriage more than anything! I would make sure I was transparent. I would ask what he needs!
