Thanks for dropping in guys. I'm glad you found that quote helpful. Hungry ghost - interesting...I'll google that too.

Thanks Pink - yes it would be good to see more WAS's on here. I guess most just aren't in a place to post here. Many feel they have found a new love and moved on etc. It often isn't until much further down the line that the former marriage can start to look more appealing again for some.

I had a busy day at work, and then I met up with SS and his Mum for some dinner afterwards. Hadn't seen them for a couple of months and TBH I always have mixed feelings about it. Glad to be in touch with them, but it's also tough as it brings me closer to what's going on with H too. I try and tread a line between not asking about Dad and not asking Qs which might be uncomfortable.

SS's Mum did say that he has only seen his dad for 3 overnighters in the whole of this last 8 weeks. That's such a change from before BD when he spent two nights every weekend with us.

I do feel sad for him that his M&D split up when he was very young and we've also had a break up with an OP in the mix in his early teens. Plus, he sees much less of his Dad now. He said that Xmas will be a chance to have some bonding time with his Dad as he doesn't get much now. He seems to be doing okay, but gosh it must impact him, his changed R with his Dad, his view of Rs, M and how unstable they can be...etc...

Anyway - we had a nice time, but I did feel sad afterwards and cried a little once they had gone....take care all xx

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T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus