So after finding out what I had originally suspected from the very beginning of BD, the W denied OM even with proof, after a while of showing her proof after proof last week, she eventually cracked..
It was way too much to deny. I wasn't mean nor angry, in fact I was very calm, although extremely hurt like nothing Ive ever felt before, it felt like weight had been lifted off my back.
I decided there was nothing more to do but to take care of the process myself.
W had been served and I am awaiting her response.
Please help me in prayer for this process to go as smooth as possible.
ILYNOT, I am so sorry. You sound sure that this is the end, so I am praying for this to go smoothly for you and your children. At least you have the truth now and you can start the healing process.
ILYNOT, my brother. I commended you for remaining strong and choosing your needs and desires over anyone else's. This is a difficult journey that we are all in, and I thank you and our Lord, that you have been instrumental in getting me through mine.
I wish you nothing but the best during this very emotional and difficult time. I hope that things will get better between your W and yourself. I hope to see your family made whole sometime in the future. It isn't over until God decides it is; with that said, you continue your journey and be open with what our Lord will put in front on you, including anyone new to help you through this and helping you to rise to a higher level of yourself.
God Bless. I am always here to support you.
M: 34 W: 33 S: 7 S: 14 months BD: 6/2015 Separation: 6/2015 Back and Forth between Home and Moms
ILYNOT, my brother. I commended you for remaining strong and choosing your needs and desires over anyone else's. This is a difficult journey that we are all in, and I thank you and our Lord, that you have been instrumental in getting me through mine.
I wish you nothing but the best during this very emotional and difficult time. I hope that things will get better between your W and yourself. I hope to see your family made whole sometime in the future. It isn't over until God decides it is; with that said, you continue your journey and be open with what our Lord will put in front on you, including anyone new to help you through this and helping you to rise to a higher level of yourself.
God Bless. I am always here to support you.
Thank you Emmess, you have also been there for me through my sitch, this was not easy at all for me nor did it have anything to do with my needs or desires, this has to do with having self-respect and my dignity. My sitch has been going on for over a year as long as the A has been. I have gone to many counseling sessions on my own, I have changed my life around and asked her to join me but refused all the while helping her out and being the best person I could possibly be. Most A’s only last around 6 months, this has been going on for double that and still going, therefore I had to drop the rope and really live my life. This website has taught me so much and will continue to implement and learn and help others as much as I can, my battle is not over.
Hey brother, I completely understand your decision. Self-Respect and dignity is one of the things that we tend to lose right away. You are doing what you feel is right. With or without her you will have an amazing and better life. This is a new stage in your journey.
Continue to post brother, I know you are getting ready for the D proceedings and the financials as well. So we are here to help in anyway we can.
God bless and much love.
M: 34 W: 33 S: 7 S: 14 months BD: 6/2015 Separation: 6/2015 Back and Forth between Home and Moms
So sorry for you. I'm sure if feels like a fresh wound again. You seem to know your own boundaries and I respect you for honoring them. Unfortunately, in the case of long-term affairs, or as in my case, multiple long-term with different OM, I think the odds of R are pretty slim. You're dealing with a person who knowingly not only betrayed you, but actively hid a dual life for months from the person whom they supposedly love more than anyone.
My belief is that people who do that are crippled with some serious issues, whether it be low self-esteem, family of origin, etc. For a R to be possible, they would have to recognize the problems in themselves and seek therapy to overcome. But those very problems also make them the least likely candidates to take a real look at themselves and do the work to change. It is different from the momentary lapses in judgement that happen in a ONS or short term affair.
I really hope the D process goes smoothly for you and your life continues to improve. Nobody knows what the future holds, so maybe somewhere down the line you and WW will have some sort of relationship, whether it be romantically, friends, etc. The good news is that YOU will be the one who decides her level of involvement in your life. God Bless brother and stay strong.
Me 47 W 42 T 24 yrs M 18 yrs W living with OM BD1: 3/7/2015 (A with OM#1) BD2: 4/11/2015 (A with OM#2, W moves out) WW filed for D, papers received 9/18/2015. Meeting to determine child custody 9/29/2015.
