"I did this for 10+ months which isn't a very long time but it was until about a month after her first A. Then I stopped."
Why? You just re-enforced the idea that you were only doing those things to get her back and that you hadn't really changed. You just showed that your changes weren't real.
I stopped because she started having an A and refused to stop contact with him. She told me she never checked on where I was going, she wasn't checking my emails and I could have been doing anything I wanted. She didn't know if she could trust me because she wasn't checking. She said my check in text messages were annoying. I also saw it as pursuing someone who no longer was honoring our M.
Do you think I should have kept doing these things even though she had left our M?
Me 40 WW 41 D 4 S 12 S 14 BD 6.16.2015 W stopped wearing ring 9.4.15 W Filed Divorce 9.14.15 My ring off 11.15.15 D finalized 12.18.15 WXW (wayward X wife) moved out 1.28.16 got her own place
