Re: She Wants Me to Leave....3rd Time in 4 Years 2

[isittoolate]

So I confronted W about a possible EA/PA.
Wedding rings were off and she had an 'appointment' in town and I caught her off guard with her phone which she put down very quickly.
My paranoia started to eat at me so I asked her straight up.

She assured me that there was no EA/PA and said I was being paranoid.
She wouldnt ever have a A as her first priority were the boys and an A would push me away from them. She wanted us to remain friends even though I had said we would never be friends. She wants wahats best for the boys. She said the wedding rings were off and on each day (as I have noticed) and she hadn't put them back on after the run earlier today as she hadn't had a shower.
The appt was for botox (which she has every 3/6months) and needs an appt to order it.

So this convo led to a tentative R talk with basically no movement from W.

She said the first few days after BD (3 weeks ago) she deparately wanted me out as the tension was unbearable but things had got better and she didnt want to 'push me out the door'.

She was ok with the present arrangements, said she didnt want to give me a timetable but it couldn't continue forever and I had to consider my options. She sort of said I could stay until after xmas.

She said I must have thought about it...wanting my opinion. I tried to not say anything that would be pursuing and just said that what I wanted was not the same as her and could we leave it at that.

I didnt reason, plead, beg or pursue in any way even though afterwards I so badly wanted to hug her.

This happened in S8 bedroom. She is sorting through the bedrooms throwing out old toys and games. She asked me to join/help her and we had a relaxed 15-30 mins sorting through stuff. It was more relaxed that the last 3 weeks.

She did refer to the MBR (where she is sleeping) as her bedroom

Earlier I said I was going out at 7pm (salsa) she didnt enquire where.

So lots to think about. Not sure where to go from heer other than the letter is on a backburner for now.

The D word was not mentioned but she still wants separation and possible/probable D.