W emailed me this morning, I have told her no emails at work unless an emergency. Its a question about getting glue to fix our kids rollerblade toy.
This is a boundary that she has crossed and I don't reply as the consequence.
She can talk to me at home about it.
I should leave it at that, but I wonder why the email, is she trying to pull me into a email spewing? Is she trying to be disrespectful, poke at me, or is it more friendly and showing she is thinking of me. Another cheese less tunnel.
Got another email about soccer, my new GAL starting this Sunday.
You cannot 'Tell' your wife not to send you emails whenever she wants. She is a grown woman (who just happens to be pi$$ed at you right now), who can do what she wants, right? her being rebellious towards you is disrespectful, no question. You are the cool, confident one who will lead your marriage our of the turmoil. You can certainly talk to her calmly and mention to her that you are busy at work and will get back to the personal email stuff when you get home and have ample time to focus on the information, and give it its due consideration. You control your actions, you can respond when you think it is appropriate. heck some people just write emails when it comes to their minds (I know I do, I may not expect a response right away, it is just something that I do so I don't forget later).
There is a difference, maybe pretty subtle, ok. It is the difference between you trying to control her actions and trying to make sure you are appropriately spending time at the office, conducting yourself like a professional, still giving importance to her communications all the while, making sure you are clearly wanting to be part of the team raising your children.
Does that make sense? LBS doesn't have to be hard-a$$ed to take a hard stand about things. Maybe I error to ofton on the soft side, but we are trying to project that although we are not going to take any more bull-$hit anymore, we still care and are capable of being respectful and compassionate.
BTW, Great work on finding new outlet - getting out!!!
