Hi Lou, I also think you are doing so well. For years, you had lived the family life you wanted and then that was blown out of the water. But you showed a lot of grit, picked yourself up and are building a different life for yourself (life is always about plan B....so they say.)

Equally, you're handling the changing situation with your H wanting to be in touch and the hopes that raises - and you're doing that calmly and thoughtfully. I'm full of admiration. Yes, there are things that you'd like to do in terms of housing and a level of earnings you'd like to attain - those sound like great goal areas to me - something to work towards.

Good luck with everything. Your thread is one that has helped me a great deal xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus