"Have either of you ever been involved with another person, before this time?" No, this is the first time.
I think the convo ended up going quite well. I went in with the mindset that I wouldn't let anything she said phase me emotionally and succeeded.
We talked a lot about our relationship and her feelings. I engaged with her, but I think I did a fairly good job of responding in a detached way. I defended myself when I felt she was gas lighting.
Not sure if it was just a coincidence, but she showed some emotion for the first time by tearing up. She also said we had a good relationship all these years, whereas last month she basically denied this. I have to admit, this was a little frustrating to hear as I was thinking to myself that we still can have that good relationship and the talk we are having shows that. We get along really well and can civilly talk with each other about basically anything.
Toward the end, I asked her when she planned to move the rest of her stuff out. She was caught off guard, and asked if it could wait. I said I'd think about it. Yesterday, though, she emailed me and said she will move it into a storage pod. I wouldn't want to go back on it now that I've said it, but I'm questioning if this was a smart thing for me to do.
I ended the conversation by telling her I'm headed to the gym. She hugged me and I broke it off after a second or two.
I haven't reached out to her since then (Tuesday), but did respond today to an email to work out some logistics with flights that we had booked for Thanksgiving, Christmas, and the Hawaii trip. I don't plan on initiating any contact.
I was hoping after the good talk we had on Tuesday that she would reach out at some point during the week to show some renewed interest, but it didn't happen. Is it ok to have these talks with her or is it just letting her cake-eat by getting emotional support from me?
