Answer to: "why didn't you hear it from ME?"

[Flight]

I know I still need to work on detaching. I still let my moods get affected by hers.

I believe she was being nicer to me because she felt my GAL and not pressuring her meant I had "moved on". When she got back from her trip and wanted to talk about "being able to date". I explained my boundary about if she wanted to live here with me, my boundary was we don't date other people. If she needed to, she could leave or we could sell the house. She has been really struggling after that. The other day she was getting flustered because I was going to change my plans and it meant I would be home. She obviously had something going on because she reacted almost violently to that and said, "you need to honor your committments!!!" I replied, "Like you?" That go her goat!

So she is back to not looking me in the eye, or even looking in my direction. So I guess part of the roller coaster, it really seemed to be getting better there for a while.

Not sure how to handle her back in "I feel trapped" mode and talking about selling the house because "if that is your condition I need my freedom to live my life how I please. I don't have any plans to date, but I am a grown woman and can do as I please without it affecting my living arrangements" We were supposed to have a talk and I agreed, but she didn't have it with me.