Hi Lou, Firstly, you continue to be an inspiration to me. I have read your posts from the beginning, as our sitch's are somewhat similar. My stars, woman, you have come so very far in such a short time! Imagine what your life will be like in 5 or 10 years?! Very exciting! You may not realize it today, but you really have done a remarkable job under the most adverse conditions. That my friend takes grit, make no mistake about it!
Secondly, you and your H are in the precarious reconnecting stage. I say precarious because I've read it's so, not because I have any personal experience there. As Job says so wisely, I think the best thing to do is to dig deeper for patience (like you haven't already had to dig deep for patience?!).
I'm only 6 months into our separation, post BD, and the good Lord knows I have the patience of an angry hornet sometimes ... but in those moments when I can actually practice patience actively, things are better. I can't believe the amount of patience that's required of us LBS ... and yet, I also feel that in some ways it's far easier to be the LBS than the MLCer.
Keep your eye on the prize, whatever you ultimately feel that prize to be. I like that you have articulated your goals. You will get there, one step at a time. Thank you for continuing to share your journey here. Sending you much love and support. xoxoxo
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
