So H is leaving tomorrow (he'll be back to visit for Halloween though). I think we we're supposed to sit down after D went to sleep to discuss budgets, but he mentioned in passing when we we're out that we could do that over email. He ended up leaving while I was putting D to sleep. And I was relieved. He's such a Debbie Downer. I'm SO scared for the future sometimes. Don't know if I can make enough money. But I tell myself not to worry about that yet. Guess I'm just not having an amazing day.
Oh, in therapy he finally admitted that one of his problems is always over-promising and under-delivering. YES!!! In one of my IC sessions with the therapist, she made me realize that although he's always rooted for me, he has always been very dismissive of me as well.
Made another tiny step towards independence today: Opened up my own checking and savings account ;-) Had to transfer money from the joint account to do so, but whatever. Won't let that take away from my "victory" haha
Getting the checking account is a great step, congratulations.
Set a boundary, you consider finances to be important and something to be discussed in person. Either tell him directly if you have the chance or in response to his first email.
Frankly, I think he got scared so fended the matter, you may not receive an email and don't prompt for it either if nothing appears.
Keep on and never stop building yourself into the best you, you can be.
- Nobody has ever learnt anything important from happiness and success; problems make us grow - Consult your plan, not your feelings - If you haven't set goals, how can you expect to achieve anything?
Thursday I had brunch with a woman I met on a lists serve. She's also getting divorced and is further ahead in the process than me. She kept on telling me to get a lawyer. I never know what to say to people when they tell me that.
Other than that I've been staying up too late, shopping a bit and I just worked out for the first time in 3 days today. Yikes. No good. Also got a trim, so I feel better about my hair.
Right now I'm just chilling with some wine while I wait for Homeland to start.
Tomorrow I will go for a run, with my D in the stroller, in my new running jacket. Yay!
Looking after your appearance, keeping in shape, GAL activities, R&R with yourself, some wine plus decent TV and, a new running jacket, life's pretty sorted for you then. Go for it!
Did you get your friend's L's details? If she doesn't t have any complaints about them it might be life trying to give you a guide to protect yourself...? I don't believe in consequences, everything happens for a reason. How about you?
- Nobody has ever learnt anything important from happiness and success; problems make us grow - Consult your plan, not your feelings - If you haven't set goals, how can you expect to achieve anything?
I'll get the name, just in case. I just can't imagine we'll ever get to a place where a mediator isn't enough. If he tries to screw me over I'll, call his mom ;-)
