I found out this weekend that my H can purchase a home by himself without me and I will not be financially responsible as long as I don't sign anything. This is good news. I still have a few questions regarding whether I have to provide any of my personal documents such as my personal bank account info or my pay check into, etc. and then there is the possibility that my H would only be able to qualify for a home if my income is counted. But I'm not going to go there yet.
I hope he will be able to qualify on his own. I will have to brace myself also for the possibility that once he gets his own home, he will no longer want to contribute to the cost of our joint home. Another unknown.
So this weekend, I have been thinking about what goals I want to begin working on. I have come up with the following. Avanti, you promised to review and provide feedback. My first attempt at goals are as follows:
1. Find an IC who can help me figure out how I can put myself first without feeling guilty and why I feel guilty when I do put myself first.
2. Spend at least one hour a week reading something from the suggested reading list or a suggestion from someone on the forum
3. Do some kind of exercise, at least 4 times a week for at least 30 minutes.
4. Learn how to meditate
5. Say a prayer for my H once a day - this is really for my benefit
Does anyone have any suggestions for easy meditation practices?
I plan to do a little reading tonight and say my prayer for my H. Thank you Avanti for asking me about my goals. Now have at it :-)
