Re: She Wants Me to Leave....3rd Time in 4 Years 2

[isittoolate]

I cant sleep . Too many thoughts, need to release them.

I keep thinking back over the last few months and have started to realize how much W has dialled me out of her life. I then looked further back.

I looked at her FB page and flicked through the dozens of mobile photos she uploaded over the past year. I am in 3. Most of the rest are her and her friends on nights out or events and of course lots of the boys.

Then I started to think further back to Oct 2014 when I last confronted her about the state of our M and how it needed to change. At the time I complained about the lack of QT leading to lack of intimacy and lack of sex. I asked for more QT. She conceded and we went out a few times - movies and meals and a weekend was arranged in London, they all seemed contrived. The weekend away was 2 months on in Dec 2104 and we had a big row when drunk and I complained again about lack of QT and how I loved her but she wouldn't allow us to connect. Lots of tears lead to make up sex and her saying she would try harder.

But in hindsight it was all a sham. She pretended to connect and still used the other good parts of our M to keep things ticking along. I was a good H doing a fair share of housework, helping with the boys after school activities, babysitting when she wanted to go to the gym, or go out with the girls, being supportive when she had problems at work etc etc. All those things I am good at. At the same time I get words of appreciation, cards at valentines xmas , birthday etc and I think I'm doing a good job! (except the sex)

She cut me out of her social life and her sex life, slowly but surely over the months whilst using the other aspects of R as her BFF. I'm just seeing the light.

This has been going on for probably 18 months.

So now what do I do? This weekend she hasn't called and only sent a txt about a delivery she's expecting. Again all about her.

Hoe do I make a goal which seeks to improve our R in the environment?