WAS or what (3)

[roist]

Regardless of procrastinating issues I am eliminating/reducing being in a half marriage as you once described it means still being a H and family man every week. Separated people in general have one week out of two without that responsabilty in house. That is mainly what I meant.

Also I want to spend as much time with my sons as possible and even more so if there is a chance that that could be reduced later. They are relatively young and this is important for me and for them.

I have grasped the importance of GAL and I am shedding the false excuses and finding ways to do what GAL I need to do.

I will check out foreveryoung. Thanks for tip.

I have been too busy doing stuff and meeting people to do my list. But it is a key part of my plan going forward.

Here is a quick outline of how I think I will proceed:

# I will look for permanent job. Regardless this will be helpful but my main motivation is that I can be in a position to provide security for me and boys. Should also reduce workload and stress. All good. I willalso promote my business to be best possible in the meantime.
# roiste 2.0 action plan and goal. Will be in place by the end of the month.
# GAL.I am working towards really getting a life and not just distracting myself.
# inappropriate friend. This is my sticking point. Recently I read an article that Michelle wrote to give to S in EA. I have already put up a no R boundary . Without being too controlling maybe this needs to be a NC boundary. I am at the stage where I don't fear the consequences of a stronger stance here. In fact subconsciously all other actions may be to prepare this. Maybe this will need to be addressed before I can sort out the rest. That will depend on what happens there.
# I am reading a PMA book that is potentially helpful. Others have not spok n to me really.
# my brother, a close woman friend, my IC and the guy who's program I bought before coming here have all suggested that I should talk to W. As my brother points out not talking does not seem to have helped me for the last year. This is not part of my plan but worth noting.

Idk but I may be heading towards the same hill you are on.