Hi Sotto- thanks for sharing that. It certainly resonates in my MLC sitch as well.

I know my H feels something is missing inside as well. As I look back over the years, I see now that he was applying many, many external fixes to internal problems.

For myself and my own healing, I see why it is so important to sit quiet. So much is revealed about myself and about him.

I will add that read to my list ...

Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced