Lou, I know you are anxious to reconcile, but your h isn't ready to do so yet. He recognizes that he's got a lot of work to do and it's going to take time, i.e., on his time clock, not yours. Be happy that he's talking to you and telling you that he's working on himself. Many don't get this rare opportunity, so, no more pressure. Allow things to progress at their own pace. I want to see you both happy and together, but you've got to let him move slowly at his pace.
Keep the focus on you and dig deeper for more patience.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
