Good morning. Avanti's suggestion is the way I was planning to handle. I will do every thing I would do if I was alone, except pay the bills. Two people can't pay the bills, she has always done it and she never complains about it.
Doing almost everything for my self is not risking anything. If she dumps me it does not hurt at all. I will continue to help her out as I see fit. She will not ask. When I see an opportunity I will decide. I will not be her errand boy.
Now answers to your questions.
The silent treatment started hard core earlier this year, not before .
I think she expects I will love her and continue to wait for her. That is what I said in the beginning.
She does respect my space and privacy. She respects my boundaries also.
The only thing I will change is me. My approach, my perspective. I want to be improve my short comings. I need to become assertive in a kind and compassionate way. I want to be a leader not a dictator.
My goals for October, I know its only a week, I can tune them up for November. 1-Be assertive 2-Start to exercise 3-Eat less at dinner 4-Perform one act of random kindness each day 5-Help wife when she needs it, not when she wants it
There you have it, my strategy and goals moving forward. I love you kind people and grown to depend on your wisdom and support. Thank you again for your support. If you have any thoughts or suggestions I'd like to hear them.
