" When I am weary and cannot sleep, I count my blessing instead of sheep and I fall asleep counting my blessings."
HONEY DO LIST FOR COGAL:
1. You can turn the truck into finance company or dealer sometimes. I had to pay for my ex's car while the OW drove it work every day. D--- was that hard. Have it pulled or sell it. 2. You have children, protect all your assets. 3. Do not pretend with your children. Tell them you are unhappy, that you are working on it and with their help you will get through this. Tell you love them and tell them thank you every time they do something to help around the house. Write out your anger and pain don't dump it on the kids. 4. Buy paper plates. And anything else to make your life simple. 5. Get your hair cut in a simple to take care of style. Change your style or color. H---, buy a wig. 6. Spend time with each child individually. And spend time with you the same way. Take yourself out for a treat. 7. Clean out the closet. Pack the little reminders of him and put it away. If you and him get back together you can always unpack it together. By the way, don't take him back under the same contract. Hold out for courtship. 8. Pick a new favorite color. Pick a new favorite song and fragrance. 9. Forgive yourself for being human and less than perfect. Give yourself permission to stumble as you learn new relationship skills. 10. Decide today that you are a queen and a diva and you DESERVE to be treated as such. And from now on you will DEMAND your due respect and accolades. Make sure you remind yourself every day to have fun and be silly. 11. Start a list of things you are grateful for and add to it every day. Write them down in your personal diary and never marry anyone that can't laugh with you over your list. 12. Decide if you plan to remarry. If you plan to marry again start work on your wish list and pray about every night. Trust me, God wants you tell him what you want and His line is always open. Don't forget to tell him every day the things you are grateful for. If you decide not to remarry, work on the wish list for the rest of your life. 13. Take good care of you. Donot neglect your health. Keep up the personal hygiene. 14. Depression will come like a cloud to surround you and tell you can't make it, it's all your fault, you shoulda etc. Arm yourself with your grateful list, a coupla of snappy comebacks and a plan B. I like bubblebaths with candles, a good trashy novel and some really good chocolate. Make your list of stuff you like and when depression tries to make an appointment to move in, HANG-UP ON HIS A--!
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Growing older, mandatory. Growing up, optional. Living a happy life despite of his sh-t, the very best revenge.
