Zero steps forward

[TDball]

Hi Feyth! It sounds like you're doing a great job, I wish I had your restraint.

I'm not in a place to offer advice, but just wanted to offer my support. I'm impressed by how you handled the whole dating conversation. Now you can have some time to think about what you want. When I found out my H was involved with someone, I was so devastated and emotional that I immediately told him that second thoughts were no longer an option After I said that, all of our interactions went downhill and have been either filled with anger or nonexistent.

Now that I've had 4 months to process it, I am fairly sure that it would still be a deal breaker, but I'm not completely certain, and it's not something I can take back. I almost wonder if I pushed him to tell me so that I could put an end to being in limbo. Limbo feels awful, but in retrospect it's a good place to be. You can use this time to really think about what you will and won't accept in a marriage, because it mah not be what you initially thought.

Anyway, he's going to do what he wants to do. You do have some control over how much of it you're exposed to. I blocked my H (and his GF) because it also means I can't look them up, and during my weaker moments I need that extra barrier of protection.