less confused newbie. (6)

[dday]

Thanks Sandi, I have read other articles on detachment. This was a pretty good one. I know it is necessary, and I am working on it. I am better than I was a couple months ago. Other than when we have had a discussion about the boys, I have been calm, and even. Sometimes a little cold, which I am working on.
I would think that expectations are tied to detachment, or lack thereof. I have not tried to rescue her, or volunteer anything since right after she filed. I try to validate, when given the opportunity. Usually our conversation starts with kids, and just facts. I screwed up a couple weeks ago and had an r talk. I will try and let her lead from now on though.
Please let me know where I can improve!